Oh who am I kidding? This one is also difficult sometimes. Don't take anything personally... Whatever happens around us ~ What other people do = has nothing to do with us. It is because of themselves. You see, everyone lives their own dream, in their own mind. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on theirs.
This is particularly hard for me when I'm in a situation that seems so personal. Even if another person insults me directly, I must know it has nothing to do with me. What they say, what they do and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds. By not taking it personally, I am immune to pain; I can never be hurt by what they say or do.
There is a HUGE amount of freedom that comes when we don't take things personally. The whole world can gossip about us and if we don't take it personally, we are immune. Someone can intentionally send emotional poison and if we don't take it personally, we will not eat it.
As I made a habit of not taking things personally, I found that I didn't need to place my trust in what others do or say. I discovered that I only needed to trust myself to make responsible choices. I am never responsible for the actions of others; I am only responsible for myself. When I truly understand this and I refuse to take things personally, I can hardly be hurt by the careless comments or actions of others.
That doesn't mean I don't get hurt sometimes... because I do. But when that happens, I have stepped away from this agreement. I've learned that when something doesn't "feel good" (when it hurts or I am sad), to be able to recognize that I am out of alignment and I need to right myself; I need to remember who I am and intentionally pull myself back to the 4 agreements and into the vortex of creating my life the way I want it.
Easier said than done... but with practice, the second agreement can save us a lot of pain.
Do Not Take Anything Personally
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