Forgive

Let's talk about this for a minute... Forgive. What does that even mean? That you "let it go"? That you just let them do it again and again? That you trust them implicitly? Not necessarily. 

Before forgiveness comes pain, anger, sorrow... something negative. For many of us, we carry that burden of the pain. How long we carry it, is entirely up to us.

I forgive pretty quickly. That might be my "downfall", but I do. It doesn't seem to matter how shitty someone is to me or what pain they have caused me ~ I forgive. I may not give them an opportunity to hurt me again, but I'm really good at forgiving them. 

I don't forgive them because they deserve it. I forgive them because I deserve it. I deserve to live happy, joyous and free... I deserve to embrace my heart and let it beat with kindness. 

I've heard it said, "Holding a resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die". This quote or some variation of it has been attributed to multiple sources (Nelson Mandela, Buddha, Frank McCourt, 12 step programs and etc...). It doesn't matter who first said it, it's true. 

Who do you need to forgive? Don't you think YOU deserve it?!