This agreement is probably the most important one and also one of the toughest for me to honor. Our "word" = our "power". It is THE most powerful tool we have as humans... It is THE thing that will allow us to transcend our existence in this world. Our words can create the most beautiful dream or it can destroy everything around us.
Impeccable means (in Latin) "without sin" and a sin is something you do or believe that goes against yourself. It means not speaking against yourself, to yourself or others. It means not rejecting yourself. To be impeccable means to take responsibility for yourself, to not participate in the "the blame game."
The rules of "action-reaction" apply. What you put out energetically WILL return to you. Proper use of the word creates proper use of energy, putting out love and gratitude perpetuates the same in the universe. The converse is also true.
This all starts at home. Be impeccable with yourself and that will reflect in your life and your relationships with others. This agreement can help change thousands of other agreements, especially ones that create fear instead of love.
To break it down:
1. Speak with Integrity (tell the truth).
2. Say only what you mean (be very intentional about saying what you really want to say)
3. Avoid speaking against yourself or others (that means don't put yourself or others down or gossip)
4. Use your words for the creation of peace and love
This becomes particularly difficult when others TRY to hurt or provoke us. I recently had an experience where a new friend would intentionally try to provoke me to anger. I think that's just what she was used to in relationships ~ I don't really know. But she would actively try to get me to clap back at her in anger. And she acknowledged that this was her pattern... but she completely lacked insight as to WHY she did that.
I simply refused to participate. That doesn't mean I didn't get angry, but I refused to respond in anger. If I couldn't respond in love and kindness ~ I'd just go radio silent. Not because she deserved that... but because I DID. I deserved to be kind. I deserved to be loving. I deserved peace.
Our friendship ended about as quickly as it started.
Be Impeccable with your words. So hard to do sometimes, but critical to the creation of peace in our lives.
The beauty of this is taking care of oneself by not participating, i.e. the feeling of anger is like a signal something's wrong but you responded rather than reacted. I need to keep remembering this, even the 'words' of my own thoughts.
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